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I had to travel for work to Walvis bay about three weeks ago. I dropped my luggage, changed clothes and took long walk along the beach yesterday in Swakopmund where I stayed. The next morning, I woke up and wrote this and I hope it bless you.
———-Enjoy
The Most Dangerous Thing a Man Can Do
Stop moving. Start thinking. Most men are busy. Few are deliberate. We wake up, check the phone, rush through the day, collapse, repeat. We call it living. God calls it drifting. A man who doesn't think doesn't lead. Not his family. Not his business. Not his own soul.
The Lie Our culture worships motion. Hustle. Grind. Optimized mornings. But busyness is a drug. It makes you feel important while your life falls apart in slow motion. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths." — Proverbs 3:5-6 "In ALL your ways." Not just Sunday morning. Every arena. Every decision.
The Prayer Blocker Let me be direct: Your prayers are blocked. You don't even know it. "Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way... so that your prayers may not be hindered." — 1 Peter 3:7 You can pray with passion. Fast. Declare. Speak in tongues. But if you're dismissive, harsh, selfish, or cold to your wife—your prayers hit a ceiling. God won't bless what you're breaking.
Lead Yourself First Before you lead her, lead them, lead anything—lead YOU. This starts with real devotion. Not an app. Not a Bible plan you check like a chore. Sitting before God with no agenda but to listen. "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path." — Psalm 119:105 The lamp doesn't light the whole road. Just the next step. But you have to show up.
Carve out time to think. Not scroll. Not plan. Think. Ask the hard questions: • Am I treating my wife with honor? Easy answers are for boys. Men wrestle.
Your Move You have a choice. Keep moving fast and going nowhere. Keep treating your wife like an afterthought. Keep leading with your own understanding. Or stop. Get before God. Look your wife in the eye and ask how you've made her feel—then actually listen. Males react. Men reflect.
Males drift. Men direct. |
Today, or this weekend …
1. Take two hours of uninterrupted thinking. No phone. Just you, a journal, and God. Do this for seven days. Your marriage shifts. Your prayers clear. Your path straightens.
It needs men who think, pray, and lead—with God at the center, and honor in their homes. That man can be you. But only if you stop long enough to become like Him.
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Honestly thought this was going to be clickbait from the title. Pleasantly wrong.
The walk along the beach produced this. Imagine what more men would write if they just stopped and thought for an hour.
Abner ShilongoExactly. Most of us just need to step away from the noise for a bit. A beach walk, a quiet morning, anything. The thoughts are already there, we just never give them space.
"Keep treating your wife like an afterthought", some men need to hear this every single week.
Not religious myself but even I can see the point about stillness and self leadership. Good stuff.
I sent this to three men in my life. Whether they read it is their business.
The three questions at the end. Sat with those for a while. Not easy to answer honestly.
Came here expecting something shallow and got something that made me stop scrolling. Well done.
Priya N.Right? The title almost made me keep scrolling but something made me stop. Glad I did.
Good read. Short enough to finish. Heavy enough to sit with. More like this please.
"Not just Sunday morning. Every arena. Every decision." This is where most men fall short including me.
The hustle culture criticism is spot on. We celebrate busy people like being exhausted is a personality.
Easy answers are for boys men wrestle. That line alone is worth sharing.
My late father used to say almost the same thing about deliberate living. This brought back memories. Good ones.
Traveled from Walvis and still found time to write something meaningful. Some of us can't even find time to pray. Convicted.
Not sure how I feel about the prayers being blocked section. Feels like it puts too much pressure on husbands alone.
The lamp doesn't light the whole road just the next step. That's all I needed today honestly.
Ben IsaacsSame. I read that line twice and just sat with it. Sometimes one sentence is enough.
Swakopmund does something to you. The ocean air makes you think clearly. Glad he took that walk.
Linda_SwakopGrew up near there and yes, something about standing next to that ocean just quiets everything down. You stop thinking about your to do list real fast.
Males react. Men reflect. That's a bumper sticker right there.
Emmanuel J.Honestly put it on a wall too. Simple but it hits different when you really think about the men you know who fit each one.
I appreciate this but where is the version for women? We drift too you know.
The part about checking the phone first thing in the morning. Guilty. Every single morning.
Does this only apply to married men or are single men included too? Some of this is relevant for all of us.
"Busyness is a drug", wrote that down. That's exactly what I've been doing for years and calling it productivity.
Can someone share this to my husband please. Asking for a friend.
Simone T.Girl same. I did not come here to be convicted on behalf of someone else but here we are.
The prayer blocker section is real. Most men don't even know about that verse in 1 Peter. Church never talks about it.
David K.This is so true. That verse gets skipped over constantly. I only heard it taught properly once in about fifteen years of attending church.
So he went to Walvis Bay for work and came back with a sermon lol. Respect though, this is good.
refilwe_nkHa that's actually a good point. Walvis Bay work trip turned into a whole life lesson. Some people go and just bring back receipts.
"God won't bless what you're breaking." That line hit different. Needed to hear this today.